Welcome to my wedding nostalgia era. Ames and I got married a year ago now, on 8/27/22, after multiple covid and family emergency postponements as you well know by now if you’ve been reading along. We sent our wedding invites (below) in December 2019 -lol- for a wedding that changed dates thrice before actually occurring. We planned this wedding three times! And neither of us are especially wedding driven; neither of us ever fantasized about weddings when we were young. Neither of us had ever participated in the fanaticism and pageantry of wedding industry culture. Which, if that’s your thing, I love that for you. Life is too short for anyone to be mad about that! And hey, I love drag shows and there’s a lot of fanaticism and pageantry and a whole culture around that. And I will admit that I’ve watched “Say Yes to the Dress” in a few hotel rooms. It always felt alien to me, yet entertaining. Let us be entertained.
My point here is only that I surprise myself with the bevvy of wedding related content I want to share with the world, one year later. There were trials and tribulations to get to this wedding. When we started planning it the first time, “global pandemic” was not on our radar. Since we first started planning and even since we had the wedding last year, queer and trans lives face increased violence and abject hate. And, so. I do feel like pulling our wedding day close and feeling again the joy and community of that moment, and I want to share some details with you. Our wedding was so perfectly us, and I am so glad we stuck with it and pulled it off.
And, it’s all on my mind again as we are, as you read this pre-written post, deep in honeymoon magic.
From the moment we knew we’d have a wedding ceremony and celebration (please note we each separately proposed to each other, because we both wanted the other to have the experience), it was always about our beloved community. We wanted our wedding to celebrate our community and pay homage to our queer and trains elders and icons. Less about me and Ames and more about all of us. Especially as the rhetoric against us intensified. Community and celebration have always gotten us through.
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